Updated: Jun 5, 2019
Have you ever asked yourself why it seems so easy to fall into unhealthy routines and habits?
Why do I eat junk food every day and not healthy food?
Why do I watch mind-numbing TV instead of going to the gym or meeting with a friend?
Why am I always late showing up to a job I hate every day?
Why do I still bite my nails?
Why can’t I quit smoking?
There’s no shortage of unhealthy and unproductive behaviours, and even the best of us struggle with them from time to time.
But why? We all want and crave to live a healthy, fulfilling, and amazing life.
So how come it is more likely that this time next year we’ll be doing the same thing rather than something better?
There are heaps of good reading out there as to the why, but this blog is going to focus on how to develop the new behaviour or habit you’ve always dreamt about.
Over the years, a robust, simple proven methodology has been determined for new habit advancement. It is very much like a recipe of ingredients when preparing a mouth-watering dish in the kitchen that you can use to develop any new behaviour or habit that you desire.
Over time, you'll find it more comfortable and easier to develop the habits that you want and incorporate them into your personality.
So read on, here is where getting that new habit starts.
You need to clearly decide and positively that you are going to begin acting in a precise way 100% of the time, every time whenever that behaviour is required. For example, if you decide to get up to go to the gym each morning, then set your alarm the night before and when the alarm goes off, don’t mess about, get up and out of bed put on your funky exercise gear on and begin your exercise session. Do this repeatedly until it becomes automatic.
Never ever allow a negative justification to your new habit pattern during the early stages, don't make excuses or rationalisations, it's far too easy to do this. Stay the course and don't let yourself off the hook. If you've decided to get up at a certain time every morning, then be disciplined to get up at that time every single morning until this habit becomes as normal as breathing.
Tell others that you're going to begin practising an appropriate behaviour. It's incredible how much more disciplined and determined you will become when you know that others are watching you see if you have the willpower to follow through on your resolution.
Visualise yourself performing or behaving in a specific way in a particular situation. The more often you visualise and imagine yourself acting as if you already had the new habit and more quickly this new behaviour will be accepted by your subconscious mind and be programmed in as a permanent part of your character and personality.
Creating Affirmations that you can repeat over and over to yourself is a great way to tell your subconscious mind to get on with accepting a new habit quickly. Your affirmation could be, "I will get up at 6:00 AM each morning, so I have enough time to get to work". Repeat the affirmation just before bedtime, and with time you'll be amazed that you will not need that annoying alarm clock again.
Be 100% determined to continue in the new behaviour until it is so automatic and natural that you'll feel weird when you do not do what you've decided to do.
This perhaps is the most crucial ingredient, give yourself a reward of some kind for practising the new behaviour. Each time you reward yourself, you will recognise and reinforce that behaviour, and soon you will link an associate at the unconscious level with the buzz of the reward with the practice. Rewarding yourself is your own protective layer of positive consequences that you unconsciously look forward to as a result of engaging in that behaviour or habit that you've decided upon.
Why not start today by taking a detailed and honest inventory of your life and commit to making a change you desire.
Start with a small change, one that’s achievable and be the Master of It.
As your confidence grows with defining your first new good habit, move on to a more challenging one.
If after trying and you’re still struggling, and you need that little extra support, then get in touch as you never know I might be able to work with you in achieving that new habit.